The walls of my bubble are sugar coated

“Did you hear about the shootings in Aurora?” I overheard a guy ask a young lady standing in line at a grocery store the other day.

She stared back at him, a perplexed look on her face. “What shootings? She asked, as she moved items from her grocery basket to the checkout counter, her toddler cooing in the child seat as she stared up at a strand of balloons tied to a nearby candy rack.

The woman seemed astounded at first as the guy began to relate the events of last Friday in Aurora, CO in which 12 people were killed and 58 were wounded in a senseless act of violence at a local theatre. I watched her face, intent on her reaction as her friend bored the numbers and detailed descriptions of the dead and as I observed her reactions I wondered if she saw the look of exasperation on my own face.

Is this woman for real?

She lives in the middle of a thriving metropolis. She is surrounded by technology. Surely she would have walked by the wall of television screens in the electronics department of the store on her way to get her two-week supply of baby diapers. Her smart phone is clipped to one of the straps of her purse and it has buzzed twice while standing in line and yet am I to believe that she has never received a call from anyone about the news before? Does she not own a computer with access to the Internet where news of the incident has been reported in rapid-fire succession on nearly every site you visit? Does the word ‘television’ sound familiar to her and does she actually own one? And when she’s in her minivan running kids from dance lessons to soccer practice to lunch dates with ‘daddy’ is her radio preset to The Disney Channel?

As I’m standing there wondering all of these things she answers my question for me and it annoys me even further.

“I just don’t watch the news or pay any attention to what’s going on anymore because it’s so depressing.”

Okay, I give her that – the news is almost always depressing these days but it’s hard to overlook the fact that there is a far greater flaw in her logic in that the belief that somehow avoiding the news will just make all the scary monsters under your bed, the homeless at the park and the addicts on the street corners go away. Ignoring the Sandusky’s of the world does not minimize the perverse reality of child sex abuse. Snubbing news reports of gang violence in a town 20-miles from your home does not mean that you get a free pass when the same type of violence erupts 20-feet from your front door.

You can’t live in a vacuum and believe that your own little slice of Elysium will never be affected by outside influences. After all, if you are standing in line at the grocery store you have already come to the realization that your paradise can never exist without venturing beyond the periphery of your bubble and the hell that exists beyond it.

Yes, it is possible to avoid what is going on in the world right now but is it recommended? You be the judge. I tend to believe that understanding the world around you gives you better information for making sound judgments and decisions when dealing with the world outside of your own.

A few years ago, Super Mom and I made the decision that we were going to move our family from our home of 12-years to another city to provide our sons with a different atmosphere. We made that decision based on our research, the advice of family members and an understanding of our current environment. We involved God in the process and after much prayerful consideration we found and moved into our new home. In a way you can say that we wanted to create our own slice of heaven. But our heaven is being built one day at a time and it still includes a daily evaluation of things that occur both inside and outside of our home. It involves assessing news and information that may at times seem outside the purview of what we want in our lives but even things that may seem irrelevant at the moment are still valuable to educate and inform our minds.

We are still hunter-gatherers. Perhaps not in the literal sense but we are living in a time and age when hunting for and gathering information is vital to our existence. If we turn our backs on information for the sake of keeping the world at bay than we may be missing out on vital data that may prove to be important when making critical decisions relating to and impacting our family.

Is living in a bubble an optimal way of protecting yourself and your family from the world? I would love to know because more information helps me make a more informed decision.

12 thoughts on “The walls of my bubble are sugar coated

  1. Just so you know, there are no gangs in our community, or drugs, or pornography, or addiction, no violence or child abuse, psychological abuse, physical abuse, or sexual abuse, no racism, no glass ceiling, no homeless, or poverty… I feel much better now.

    I think sometimes the Polynesian bubbles are also a little thicker and more difficult to pop… it might be because we are “big boned”. haha

    1. As a counselor/social worker and mentor to young people you must be really bored since you don’t have to deal with any of these problems, right?

      Can’t stop laughing at ‘big boned’

  2. Why it is even more crucial that we arm ourselves and our children with the Armor of God daily. These are the last days – and we need to Arm ourselves in order to Defend our families from the forces of evil who battle against us daily. We MUST be informed and cannot live in a bubble. That is living in fairyland that does not exist. Satan does use that as a tool as well, whispering, all is well in Zion…sleep a little longer…Be alert, awake and aware is our duty. Defend our families for we are under Attack! Great article/blog as usual bro.

    Alofas .

  3. I didn’t find out about the shootings till a couple days ago. I don’t watch the news for the fact that I qork late and have more pressing matters during the day. I have other things like school and family to attend too. I find the news is important so I try to get it from online sources but if you catch it a day or 2 after and its not on the headlines so I don’t see it.

  4. Oh no! I was in the middle of a thriving metropolis last week, I had two cell phones- a work blackberry and my personal iphone, and I didn’t know for a week! *Hangs head in shame*. I am a first time mum with a 17 month old and a full time and very demanding job, and I barely have time to brush my hair, so I have so much sympathy for the mum. Who knows what else was going on with her….it’s so much easier to say breezily “Oh I don’t watch the news because it’s so depressing” rather than start relating to someone else that you’re barely keeping your head above water. We can’t all be super mums or have super support from super partners (I know how lucky I am personally to have the support and the partner). Let her have the bubble…. it may be all she has this particular week!

    1. I completely understand – a mother’s work is vital and takes precedence over all other activities. I applaud you and give you a free pass : )

  5. I watched Fox News coz it’s fair and balanced:):) But, I love reading your posts; you are very eloquent and I like that because your message comes out loud and clear. I think we all have our bubbles. Mine has a door because sometimes I need to get out and attend the temple and go in there to just be away for awhile from the evil and the chaos of life. it is good to watch the news, but after watching the negativity out there and if I’m not careful I become desensitized.

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