I’d like an uppercut to go please

Since this video went viral the story has become increasingly bizarre (as these things usually do on the Web). When I first watched the video my initial reaction was, ‘That is one stupid guy’. My initial reaction was of course a response that based on my lifelong adherence to the one rule my parents instilled in me and my brothers from the time we were old enough to start swinging fists – You never hit a female.

The same rule applies with my sons. Super Mom and I started preaching this to our sons and they have wisely adhered to that counsel even when they were little guys getting smacked, scratched and mauled by little girls. They politely, but sternly say, “Don’t do that!” and walk away.

The bus driver in this video was suspended from his job of 22-years. He deserved it right?

Well, not so fast – it appears witnesses to the now infamous ‘uppercut’ have come to the defense of Artis Hughes, the bus driver at the center of the fracas.

The video does not show what happened prior to the shouting match and the ensuing fray but witnesses now corroborate Hughes’ story. In sworn statements to police, passengers on the bus say that Shi’dea Lane, the ‘victim’, was combative and verbally abusive towards Hughes from the moment she stepped on the bus. She escalated her verbal assault on Hughes by spitting in his face and attempting to throttle him. It was this act of violence that sent Hughes over the edge and incited his retaliation.

It is clear that Hughes was upset. If I were a bus driver and I had to deal with people like Lane on a daily basis you can imagine that I would be upset too. But did that merit the retaliatory gesture?

Along with my parents’ advice I was also taught to ‘turn the other cheek’ when someone strikes you. This is almost humanly impossible for me because I am a man, with anger issues and an ‘act first, apologize later mentality.’ It only takes a tiny spark to ignite my fuse. I’m not perfect and even though I have lived with the ‘don’t strike females’ rule all of my life, it doesn’t mean that I haven’t come across females who have really made my blood boil.

All this aside, I have to side with Hughes. Why? Have I changed my stance on hitting women? Absolutely not and I don’t nor will I ever condone that behavior. But the fact of the matter is that people like Lane who insult, bully, berate, choke, spit, curse and violate other people and expect to be treated as a ‘victim’ are due for a rude awakening.

In what universe do you think that treating people like that and then turn around and say, “I was surprised that he hit me,” after you had spit in his face and tried to choke him? The guy was defending himself and you have the audacity to say that you were ‘surprised?’ You were only surprised because someone finally stood up to your harassment.

Yes, Hughes should be held accountable for the retaliation but Lane has to own her own actions that led to the retaliation. If I walk into a store and begin a profanity laced, all out attack on a store clerk and then proceed to physically assault him, I can’t expect the store clerk to look me in the eye and say, “Sir, you seem upset. Can we talk about this over a cup of hot cocoa and some freshly baked cinnamon buns?” Nope! I can relatively expect that store clerk is going to do everything in his power to defend himself from what is obviously a threat to his life.

Are we as a society to tolerate the sort of behavior exhibited by Ms. Lane?

8 thoughts on “I’d like an uppercut to go please

  1. To your question, No we as a society cannot stand idly by and tolerate such behavior exhibited by Ms. Lane. The extent to which some people go in regards to treating others as miserably as they are feeling is beyond me. What happened to self-control? Similar to those who cannot control themselves at games and display some modicum of good sportsmanship. The buck stops here. We are the ones as a society who need to decide now whether to continue to allow this type of abhorrent behavior or not. I do not and will not tolerate such treatment of another human being. You are my brother and you are my sister so treat me with respect and love or else, 🙂 We need to LOVE more, Be Kinder, Respect More, Love one another more! Love is the Key!

  2. Seti: While I agree with you that a man should never hit a woman, I also agree with what you say about defending oneself. You could see her accost him before he struck out at her. I worked with many young women with similar attitudes and foul mouths back in North Carolina in the schools and unfortunately some here in the schools in Utah. A person can only take so much abuse, of any kind, before wanting to retaliate. Sadly, this girl is not unique in her behavior. Too many of our young women are rough, crude, and beligerent. Women’s lib, though helping to change some things in our society that needed to be changed, also contributed some problems of its own. Just yesterday at a local high school I had a young woman who was downright rude and nasty and I just wanted to slap her in the face. Of course I never would, or would I if I were pushed too far? We don’t always know what our limits will be. I hope this man does not lose his job.

    1. This is why the video and many like it are very misleading. Many times you only see, read or hear a portion of both sides of the stories. I feel bad for the bus driver and yes, the attitude of young people these days often paints a discouraging picture for humanity. Luckily there are good stories too, but so few of them.

      1. I am always so curious about what didn’t make it into the record, for this exact reason. Ms. Lane cannot reasonably expect patience in the face of her own persistent harassing.

  3. Attention seeking isnt always a good thing. The disturbing thing to me is that he swung at her like she was a grown man. It leaves me speechless. I also say that she shouldve just shut her ever leaking pie hole but the bus driver hit the brakes on the bus and then hit the brakes on her mouth. Incedible!

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